"When it comes to you, only
one person has all the answers"
Sometimes we decide or know that there's something
about ourselves that we feel we need to change? That recognition
is a good start, but then who do we turn to when we are experiencing
psychological, behavioural or emotional problems or difficulties?
There are many different therapies and techniques available
for us to choose from, both mainstream and 'alternative'.
In many cases people will see their doctor and possibly be
referred to a specialist. With this choice, as well as almost
all the 'alternative' options available, the first thing we'll
be asked to do is to describe our symptoms and try and explain
what is wrong. We hope that the therapist or practitioner
will then be able to use her or his knowledge, expertise and
experience to help solve our problems.
However this is the dilemma. Throughout our lives, all our
feelings and emotions are influenced by our experiences and
what we learned in the pre-verbal and pre-memory stages of
early development – our own unique emotional
matrix.
We can do our best to try and describe our surface symptoms
or problems, but trying to consciously reveal the underlying
affect (feeling or emotional) cause, is basically impossible.
And when we can't consciously explain why we react, respond
or feel the way we do, how can any another person ever accurately
understand our emotional problems, let alone work out our
individual emotional matrix or earliest emotional experiences?
Why the talking doesn't
help.
The new affectologist knows without doubt, that the only person
that will ever have the most accurate and detailed knowledge
about your emotional matrix, any resulting symptoms or problems,
and the specific answers needed to fix them – is YOU. And
this is not the "you" that you use to explain your emotions
to a counselor or other mainstream psychotherapist.
That fact and a scientific understanding of just how people
learn, develop and maintain their individual emotional matrix
forms part of the basis for the very different approach used
in affectology and af-x® Therapy.
This "Mind Over Chatter"
approach respects your privacy; it is the underlying affect
(feeling or emotional) cause of your problems that is the
focus of the work in the sessions. You are asked very few
questions about yourself and you are not required to explain
past experiences or your life history.
Why conscious memory is unreliable.
Nothing will ever change the fact that you experienced a certain
situation or event. But what can be changed is the emotional
reaction that you learned to apply to those circumstances,
so in the future you will able to respond to each new situation
on its own merits.
Our emotional responses and feeling level reactions to things
in our lives are unconscious, automatic and instantaneous.
This occurs because our emotional minds "short-cut" our conscious
thought processes and this is a normal protective mechanism.
But in order for us to be able to emotionally respond in the
present, we are unconsciously 'memory-tracing'
back to our emotional matrix and the very early responses
that seemed to work when they were originally learned. This
mechanism is immediate. Researchers have labeled this "emotional
hijacking", meaning that the conscious and willful part of
us doesn't even get a look in until it's too late: - we're
already on the emotional pathway and out of control!
But with a little guidance, we are all able to use this natural
unconscious process to RE-LEARN those early emotional responses
that are no longer suitable or protective – no longer "working
for us," and are likely to be the underlying cause of current
emotional difficulties. Because everyone has the natural ability
to do this, in all cases af-x "Mind Over
Chatter" Therapy is conducted as a standard
'set' of only three contact sessions.
Unlike other approaches to therapy, affectology and af-x
Practice does not rely on the analysis and interpretation
of what you are able to verbally describe about your symptoms.
It is an advanced, non-intrusive approach that helps YOU to
use your own mind's inner abilities and your own inherent
resources to privately and gently resolve the underlying affect
cause of your symptoms, problems or difficulties.
The information in this site is the result of
more than two decades of personal research in neuropsychology,
and experience in psychotherapeutic approaches and the integration
of Western and Eastern views of health and wellbeing. The
intention is to offer explanations about the existence and
performance of the "underbelly" of emotional existence
in every human being, and nothing appears on this site that
has not been witnessed or gleaned from the thousands of ex-clients
in af-x who have found improvement from the subtle to the
incredibly life-changing.
Because all people have different emotional health profiles,
having experienced huge differences in environmental events
and emotional points of origin, the information here has been
generalized for a broad audience. Nonetheless, the conceptual
positions offered here apply to every person. We all behave
in a predetermined way reliant on the "mechanics"
of learning and unconscious maintenance of those learnings.
It is impossible to guarantee positive results for everybody,
and nobody expects that guarantee, but this (af-x) work would
not be in existence and the practitioners participating in
this site would not be allowed to practice under the registered
banner of "af-x," if long-term client feedback
had not shown an extraordinary high level of success of this
approach.
Please take this information as being applicable to you in
the general "human condition" sense; yet understand
that you are an individual. All our complex emotional underpinnings
need to be integrated toward change and healing. af-x offers
the broadest potential to help bring those levels of emotional
existence into line.
Please read the information in this site with interest. Apply
it to yourself in a general way.
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