"Are you uncomfortable with ANY
aspect of yourself, how you behave or react to things in your
life? Or is 'something' just holding you back, and you don't know
what or why?"
Recent science has shown us that we all experienced
feelings and emotions well before we were able to consciously
think, talk or remember. Research shows that we respond to
things throughout our lives the way we first learned to emotionally
react in very early childhood and even earlier, in our pre-verbal
infanthood.
At this age we can't think about or logically understand what
is happening around us so we can only respond at an emotional
level. As we store our first ever affect experiences (fear,
pleasure, insecurity, love, hurt, joy, anger and all the range
of emotions and feelings we use) we unconsciously learn almost
immediately which ones get the best results. And those learnings
are stored (encoded) in the limbic brain.
As an example, we may unconsciously learn that "fear" works
as a response to a loud noise because it made us cry out and
our mother quickly came and comforted us. Other uncomfortable
situations may reinforce this "fear" response as it continues
to be unconsciously applied, gets attention and therefore
restores our level of comfort. We quickly learn to develop,
maintain and automatically apply the affect responses that
seem to get these positive results.
We build our emotional matrix (how
we learned to unconsciously respond to things at emotional
level) or personal affect response patterns to everything
and everyone around us based on these early experiences that
are beneath our later ability to recall and understand. These
automatic responses contribute to "who" we are and "what"
we are, as well as establishing our emotional personality
patterns throughout life.
As we mature, some of these automatic and unconscious affect
responses may be adjusted to suit our development while others
aren't. This means that some of the well entrenched responses
we are maintaining, although they are no longer useful or
protective, are the basis for the uncomfortable feelings,
physical symptoms or unwanted behaviours we may be experiencing
as adults. The ones we find it so difficult to consciously
change.
Because our emotional matrix is unconsciously learned and
maintained it cannot be affected by conscious level efforts
to understand or change it. However with a little guidance,
all of us have the ability to privately re-assess and permanently
resolve problematic affect responses at an unconscious level.
If you are uncomfortable with ANY aspect of yourself, how
you behave, how you respond to things in your life or you
feel that there is just "something" preventing you from reaching
your full potential in any regard; then this can almost always
be attributed to affect response patterns learned early in
life.
Many past affectology and af-x® Therapy clients have
actually been surprised by the positive changes to aspects
of their lives OTHER THAN what they originally sought help
for. This new approach is also helping many people who weren't
sure why they came to their three sessions but have greatly
improved the quality of their emotional lives as a result.
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