"Are you suited to this approach?"
People don't seek emotional change unless on some
level they want to achieve a successful outcome. However affectologists
and af-x® Practitioners are trained to respect their client's
non-conscious desires and needs, as well as their more obvious
conscious level ones.
Session-work should not proceed unless you understand certain
imperatives and you are comfortable with them. The following checklist
is provided to give you an understanding of these imperatives.
It should help you assess your suitability for this work and desire
to proceed.
"Am I comfortable not talking about my symptoms or problems?"
You already have the most accurate and detailed information regarding
your problems and the ability to privately deal with them at subconscious
level. Out of respect for this, conscious level discussion about
you and your problems will be kept to a bare minimum. This is
a 'FEELING-oriented' and not a 'talking-oriented' approach.
"Can I accept that my subconscious knows what's wrong?"
This therapy helps you deal with the underlying CAUSE of your
problems. Don't be surprised if your practitioner seems not to
want to know about any presenting symptoms that may have unconsciously
developed from that cause.
"Can I accept that any memories I have may not be relevant?"
This is a "feeling" therapy not a "thinking or talking" approach.
Time spent consciously discussing recalled memories or past experiences
is actually counter productive with this type of work.
"Will I be able to let go of the need to try and make things
happen?"
You must be prepared to give up the effort of trying to "make
change happen". Your practitioner is skilled at guiding and helping
you to achieve a permissive "let it happen" level of operation.
This is the appropriate way to allow for subconscious change.
"Will I be able to accept that my practitioner will not want
information on any changes brought about during the three sessions?"
Both during and after the completion of the sessions, your
practitioner will not seek to know about the outcome. This work
introduces a new response learning at unconscious level; the results
of this new learning need to be observed over time.
"Can I let go of the conditioned belief that sessions have
to keep going on and on until the therapist says it's completed?"
The unconscious re-learning or reframing process is usually
gentle, rapid and permanent. In almost all cases, this requires
only three contact sessions.
"Will I be comfortable with the idea that the subconscious
re-learns in its own way, and that I must trust my unconscious
to bring about change?"
Your experience during and after the sessions may be profound
or subtle, immediate or gradual, recalled or below the level of
awareness or a combination of these. This is why your practitioner
doesn't seek feedback in-session, and why the efficacy study research
(ESR) system is so important in verifying
the ongoing nature of long-term success that clients experience
with this approach.
If you are comfortable with most or all of the
above, then there is every indication that this therapeutic approach
will be highly successful for you. If you are not sure about any
of these, your local af-x Practitioner will be happy to
fully explain their importance.
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