Where are you going? ... Are you stuck? ... What do you want?
You probably would not have failed to notice the picture used in the heading of this page and that appears occasionally on other pages ... It's this one above.
Quite apart from being a 'happy' pic, we selected this because it has significant meaning relating to the aims and goals of, perhaps not only Af-x, but of all psychotherapy ... or at least, should be the goals of all psychotherapy. Yes, true, it is something that is echoed by many therapy approaches, both mainstream and 'new-age.' But for Af-x practitioners and affectologists, it has deeper meaning ... a meaning that we would hope we can hand over to you, the client. We hear so many time the question, "what is wellbeing?" or "what is emotional wellbeing or emotional balance?" This issue of loving yourself, accepting yourself, being your own best friend is the answer to those questions. And of course "LOVE YOURSELF" is fantastic, and is not really a signal to become self-centered, selfish and having less regard for others. It asks you to realize that without self-love, other aspects of life are likely to fall short for you. But what does loving yourself really mean? It's a great universal question that we all tend to ask ourselves, sometimes not getting an answer. In Affectology and Af-x terms it becomes a much deeper issue than just being able to look in the mirror and say to yourself, "I love you." There's a huge difference between hearing it said in your mind as you say it or think it, and actually FEELING it from an essential emotional position. In Af-x the idea of loving yourself is much more attuned to ...
So, all the above are words and thoughts. They are positive, good for you and those around you, and sometimes remain just as words in our lives. But when you are able to establish the perfect relationship with yourself from a deep feeling level, then the difference is that all else in your life is likely to fall into place and improve. Just as it is important that all therapy must be accompanied by an aim - a goal - it is most important that the goal be useful to the essence of a contented life. Seneca, the Roman philosopher said, "Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind". So, let a deep feeling love for who you are be that harbor; your goal. And THAT's the substance of Af-x! THAT's the aim of the Af-x model. |
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You can proceed to the next sub-page in the "Therapy" section
and read about the basic process of Af-x by clicking here.
You can proceed to the next sub-page in the "Therapy" section
and read about the basic process of Af-x by clicking here.
"Men do change, and change comes like a little wind that ruffles the curtains at
dawn,
and it comes like the stealthy perfume of wildflowers hidden in the grass"
_John Steinbeck, Nobel Prize winning author
and it comes like the stealthy perfume of wildflowers hidden in the grass"
_John Steinbeck, Nobel Prize winning author